I had to write something about menopause, so that I can simply get some relief for myself, as dealing with this is exhausting. Trying to communicate with individuals who have never experienced this is also taxing. Perhaps someone will read this and realize that they know someone who may be going through this and has said nothing. Maybe they will reach out and help or at least ask questions when they think that they may be headed in the wrong direction.
Treatment is often limited to psychiatric medications especially when you feel like you are slowly losing your mind. All too often these women hide their condition and try to pretend that things are just fine in their lives or they simply choose to blame whatever is happening to them on life. This is not to say that this happens to every woman in the world, as there are those who breeze right through this stage of their lives with no problems at all. I can tell you that these are the fortunate ones, because those of us who were not as fortunate have gone through some life changes or are going through some life changes.
I am going to discuss some of the life changes that I have gone through in my life that I contribute partly to menopause. The sad part about menopause for me is that talking about it to someone is difficult because of fear that they will really think you are crazy and will not remotely understand what could possibly be making you do some of the things that you do.
For years of my life I have always had some type of issue that resolved around my mental state that I felt involved how my body reacted to the hormonal changes that occurred in my life each month.
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I can remember when some symptoms started to occur in my life. I just knew I made it home and that it was like I totally blacked out and was oblivious to anything. Thankfully there was a higher power that got me home safe and sound. Then there was a time when I up and traded my luxury car in for a not so luxury car on a whelm, to later find out that I was pregnant.
My hormones have always sent me on a whirlwind, which may have a considerable effect on my hormones at this stage in my life. I am now 51 and I am confident that I am in menopause and may have been even prior to now. Over the course of dealing with my hormonal problems, I can tell you that this condition played a big part on my mental state. One day I found clarity with a female physician who knew exactly what to prescribe me for my condition and it worked to keep me balanced for several years.
She treated my hormone imbalance that I was dealing with from day to day. I was more confident, easier to get along with, less outburst and simply more content. Those were the best 7 years of my life or at least it felt that way, because I felt good. I am at a new stage in my life where menopause is truly taking over my life, my mind and my actions, the struggles are real. I have always been an on the go person, trying two three or four different ventures at a time.
Until recently I realized that I am all over the place, starting and stopping things, lacking any type of patience, unreasonable in certain aspects and just not a pleasant person for my family.
I started having ailments due to the type of work that I do and it started having effects on what I thought about my job. Menopause was so overwhelming to me that I started relying more on my strength in God. I have always relied on him in life and realized that I needed help even more now because I literally felt like I was going to lose my mind. I ultimately gave my resignation at my job and I honestly think that part of it was due to this menopause factor, as my ailments became worse and I just did not want to deal with the stress factors anymore.
Probably not the best way to have handled this, however the feeling was just so overwhelming and I had already taken leave due to my ailments. I rationalized that I was helping the company by not have to take any additional leave. The need for me to step back and try to gain some control over me was so powerful. I also decided to let some other outside ventures go until I could cleanse my thought process. My mind would run out of control and I would want to do and try any and everything. This just created more stress for me and although I hated to quit my job that paid very well, I did not think that I would be able to maintain without one day just simply losing it at work.
This is just how badly I felt lost in this menopause condition. I am sure that there are many women out there who can honestly relate to what I am describing and I hope that each of you will reach out to someone for help. I realized that I needed to sit still for a bit to access my situation. Find you a doctor, preferably a female gynecologist who can relate to what it is that you are going through. Menopause is silent in a sense because of women not wanting to expose themselves to criticism.
It can be devastating for many of us and cause us to make irrational decisions, lash out at people when we ordinarily would not, throw things, scream and cry a lot. I do not think that anyone not affected by this, can remotely imagine the emotional rollercoaster that menopause creates for some. The sense of feeling trapped in a body that you are not at all familiar with is just unimaginable.
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It can leave you feeling lost and trapped in your mind just trying to figure out what your next step should be. Menopause can cloud your thought process, causing you to question yourself time and time again. The physical aspects of menopause are also devastating for some of us.
The lost feeling associated with menopause is debilitating and can leave you at a total stand still in life. It causes you to pull away from people, causes you to question your own abilities and can destroy your self-esteem. I found that reading positive words, help me to make it through those days where I simply feel unappreciated, sorry for myself and not wanting to be bothered.
This is written for informational purpose and in hopes to help others who may be going through menopause to realize that they are not alone. Writing this certainly helps me to breathe and release all this stuff that clouds my mind. I hope that someone will find it worthwhile and for those that do not, may it does not apply to you. Everything you wrote I have done or been through. Quit my job of 27 years sold my house and moved after 22 years.
Started menopause when I was I just keep telling myself it will get better. I find the more I say no the better I feel. Some get very annoyed but I feel this is my time now. Thank you for your insight it has really uplifted me today now I know this is really real what I have been going through. God Bless you too! It is SO hard to deal with all the psychological aspects of this! The hot flashes are not even comparible. I wish I knew your name so i could lift up a thank you blessing on your behalf!
Regardless of the cause of menopause, however, here are a few things that women — and men — can expect from the experience:. Menopause actually begins with perimenopause, which can take years. It's also sometimes spotting, sometimes a geyser. Women have different outlooks on their menstrual cycles and different comfort levels with their bodies. These factors all affect their experience going through menopause. From a male perspective, it might seem like a woman would be downright gleeful to get rid of a monthly occurrence that forces her to bleed from her vagina.
But appearances can be deceiving. Menopause can cause many physical symptoms, including headaches, vaginal dryness, and changes in your hair. If you think menopause means saying sayonara to the torment that is PMS, think again. Nati and others like her find that instead of skipping through postmenopause life PMS-free, menopause has been like one long preperiod week. So, gents, here is some great advice for maintaining healthy relationships with the women in your life, especially during menopause. Sometimes, binge watching a favorite show together or treating her to a spa day is enough to lighten the load.
When it comes to sex: Be aware that her body is changing. Along with it, her body confidence, sex drive, and sexual pleasure may change as well. Be willing to talk about these things respectfully, and find ways to approach them as a couple. When it comes to her body: Share the differences you see happening in your own body. Talk, even if communication doesn't come naturally to you. If you tell her that you want to be helpful, then your menopausal partner will, at least, know you are on her side. Believe her. Sometimes women feel fragile and hardly know themselves during the menopause years.
Be patient. Patience is vital in both the short and long term.
Cutting her some slack when she seems sad or angry will go a long way. Offer to help. Getting help with the dishes or having the living room picked up when she gets home can help ease a hectic schedule. Do whatever you can to keep her from feeling overwhelmed. Approve of her.
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This is a perfect time to tell her that you admire her and why. Be honest in your praise. Remember why you're together. In the heat of the moment, remind yourself why you have chosen to stay with her. In a calm moment, you might even want to share that with her. Help her get the sleep she needs. If you need a sleep study, get one and use a CPAP to decrease your snoring. It will help your heart too since sleep apnea can cause cardiac damage.
Offer to sleep in the guest room on weeknights, so that she can get some real sleep and to turn off the television in the bedroom. If she wants to take a night class or join a book group, do what you can to make it easy for her. Support her health. Getting started on an exercise plan is easier if you have company.